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Healthy relationships

Spot the signs to see if you are in an unhealthy relationship and find out where you can get help.

Relationships are the basis of life, whether they are with family, friends, boyfriend or girlfriend. However, sometimes when you’re in a relationship you don’t necessarily see the signs that may mean you are in a situation that is more unhealthy than healthy.

Here are some signs to look out for to see if you are in a healthy or unhealthy/abusive relationship.

Healthy relationship:

  • respect
  • honesty
  • trust
  • communication
  • equality
  • separate identities

Unhealthy or abusive relationship:

  • verbal or emotional abuse, such as, name calling or threatening to spread rumours about you or someone else 
  • physical abuse
  • sexual abuse, for example, a partner trying to pressure you or someone else into having sex
  • controlling behaviour, for example, trying to control you by checking your phone
  • no respect
  • no honesty
  • no trust
  • no communication
  • no equality
  • no separate identities
  • being isolated by your partner, such as, being stopped from spending time with friends or family.

If you think you’re in an unhealthy or abusive relationship then remember it is not normal and is never OK. It can happen to anyone, adults and children, gay, straight and transsexual, women and men.

Being in an unhealthy relationship can affect your self-confidence, mental and physical health. 

If you recognise these signs in a relationship that you, a parent, friend or loved one is in, use the information on our Domestic abuse webpages, or visit the GOV.UK website. 

You can also watch some videos where students at The Towers Convent School and St Philip Howard Catholic High Academy give their views on what healthy relationships, consent and online safety mean to them.

Other sites that may be useful  

  • ChatHealth - Get confidential advice from the free school nurse text messaging service.
Last updated:
23 November 2023
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